Preparing for a job interview or a special date — we all know that making a good first impression is key to success. Many of the first impressions that I’ve made over the years have often been far from perfect despite all the preparation.
I couldn’t quite understand what went wrong or what I could have done differently – wear a different outfit, smile more, walk straight, shake hands firmer…
Until one day, not too long ago, I realized making a good first impression is not the result of how I look, walk or speak, how engaging, fun or professional I come across as. It’s not even about me whatsoever. It is all about the other person.
Showing genuine interest in what the other person wants to say, how they feel and what excites them is the game changing approach. Let’s face it, most people, myself included, are naturally focused and primarily interested in themselves. By asking them questions about their hobbies, families or passions makes them immediately interested in the conversation, which otherwise may have taken the routine dry and trivial route.
There is a catch though – you have to be authentic, you simply can’t fake that. When meeting new people try to be observant of little things in their behaviors or attire that can spark a question and potentially a fun conversation.
Once the conversation starts, try to listen as much as you can and let the other person speak. Ask follow-up questions and share some of your own experiences when appropriate. That way you are not just talking to a stranger but perhaps even winning a new friend.
And last but not least, I can’t stress enough how important looking and feeling confident is. It shows self-respect that projects onto those around you, it breaches the awkwardness of the fist moment and it also conveys trust.
So there you have it, my two cents on first impressions. Oh, needless to say that a tasteful outfit appropriate for the occasion is always a big plus. You won’t only look more polished, but it will give you an instant confidence boost and you’ll be able to enjoy the moment even more.
I hope you found this helpful. Check out all the incredible suits that I’ve featured below and good luck on your next big job interview or important conversation!
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